Monogamy is dead!

If you ask me, infidelity and affairs are simply important indicators of social changes and the emotional evolution of (wo)man. Nothing big to worry about. Side chick culture has greatly evolved, especially in how modern social media life presents people with numerous ways of hiding and cheating.

We are (un)fortunately having more and more affairs than ever, and before the men reading this get comfortable, women are smarter at doing this, and, yeah, Ben 10s are binding marriages like the glue they are, office boyfriends and CEOs being up to date as well. So, yeah, it’s a win-win situation.

Y’all think those girls-only trips are actually girls-only? Infidelity was unheard of back then and if by any chance people were unfaithful, they did it under the carpet, under the bed, like no one would really have wind of it. People cheated, of course, they did, but they were as careful and respectful while at it. Respect and cheating in one sentence! I know what I did right there. Plain old-fashioned infidelity was a little low-key.

So, are we truly monogamous?

Were we created to be monogamous, like, live, and be with one person forever? In the wake of social media, affairs have been made easy and at the touch of the button, all hell breaks loose.

We are less monogamous than we were yesterday and every day, things only get worse, or better - whichever way you would want to interpret it. So, was (wo)man really meant to be monogamous? Friends with benefits, office boyfriends, girlfriends, extended flirtations, and suspicious platonic friendships are everything that is slowly washing away monogamous relationships. Back then a married person was a no-go zone and a wedding ring on someone’s finger was something to run away from.

Times have changed and married people and those in committed relationships are seen as the cremé de la cremé. People have flings with people they meet regularly than you could ever imagine. 

The numerous and daily Facebook interactions, Twitter exchanges and tags, and messenger direct messages have made it easy for people to hide and cheat. A single comment on a random post on Facebook and boom! A heart reaction to your person’s Bikini photo is all that’s needed and before Peter denies Jesus, they’re sweating in some Airbnb-like summer bunnies.

Well, we may not be having serial or fully fledged affairs but flings, no strings attached, one-time stands, and several sneaky links are happening, daily, right around us. It is, maybe, because of all the technology around us that makes us easily available.

We have opportunities and time, people travel without their partners and are busier out here looking for bucks - they spend more time with the available people than their significant others.

It’s time we accepted that monogamy is all gone and buried. I don’t think humans were meant to be monogamous. Well, we’re supposed to be. But we are not, by nature - both men and women, for a mere glimmer of passion. People are curious and willing to explore. It’s hard to explore with the person you met 20 years ago when both of you were 21, clueless, naive, and stupidly in love. Try to bring the exploration topic to your partner and tell us how things go. 

Social changes and the emotional evolution of (wo)man.

Infidelity and affairs are simply important indicators of social changes and the emotional evolution of (wo)man. Nothing big to worry about. Again, this depends on how you view them. People who have affairs and want to leave their significant others are just dumb.

Not that I’m coating bad behaviour with good grammar, but have we not heard of affairs that have possibly balanced marriages? There are people who go out there to find ways and reasons to stay with their partners, forever after.

I’ll be the Devil’s Advocate. Some people don’t have affairs because they’re looking for another person. They do because they simply are looking for a different version of the person they have, or, simply trying to find the hidden spark in their lives that might not be easy to get with the people they have. Man is adventurous, we said, and adventure is rarely found within. Also, I know you know all of us are different with different people.

As we’re reading this, this very moment, someone somewhere is either cheating or flirting as they contemplate cheating. Maybe, a couple somewhere is solving an issue brought about by an affair.