Boys will always be boys, let's accept it

Parenting is a complex engagement that comes with no manual. Each parent learns on the job as they deal with each challenge in real-time without the benefit of any reference material.

Everything our mothers tell us doesn’t seem to work with our type of children who are trained in school to question our decisions. Everything they knew doesn’t seem to work anymore as we start to dialogue with kids long before they leave the womb to seek their opinion on whether the birth should be natural or aided.

Lately, we even apologise to our children and ask what they think about their teachers. We live in an advanced world where we shelter children who dictate the passwords of WiFi that we pay for.

They say the more things change, the more they remain the same. Nothing captures this more accurately than the behaviour of boys compared to girls as they grow up. Most sex differences start out small. The differences may manifest as mere biases in temperament and play style—but are amplified as children’s pink-or blue-tinted brains meet our gender responsibilities.

The misconduct of boys ranges from small acts like pushing another child and not saying sorry to refusing to tuck in their shirts. They demonstrate a level of aggression that evokes early concern. It would be fair to argue that the element of provision is something that rubs on the boys much early and as parents we ought to be more alert to the natural response that they exhibit.

Their protector instinct pushes them to be more aggressive. While we endeavour to achieve the myth of a sexless generation, the fact of the matter is that the two genders are bound to behave differently.

Changes do not affect the reality of situations at a deeper level. Nature is something bigger than any artificial pressure we might want to apply. As far as the boys are concerned the modern parent ought to engage a deeper understanding of why they behave the way they do because it is those formative acts that build the masculinity required later in life.